There are some points in life which are ‘low’ and this is
when you wonder "why me?” Sometimes there is a low point followed by
another one and this time you wonder “when will the ‘high’ be?” Sometimes you
feel that you simply cannot spot a high, now that is being mean to yourself and
definitely proclaiming to the world that the highs are an elusive lot and that
your perspective towards life is super-defective. Lows make us feel down and
out and this is when we get cocooned inside a shell or resolve to deal with
them brilliantly. Having tried both, I can vouch for the second option.
Getting cocooned helps none. You are the one at loss. Nobody
likes or appreciates you. Instead you are only pitied upon. Share your woes
with someone and will you realize that they have a whole lot of their own! You
think it is good to confide in a stranger? Think not twice but ten thousand
times before doing so! You are already on the self-damaging path. Your image which
is marred only due to a certain low is marred forever if you discuss them in
your first ever run-off with a stranger. Sooner will you realize that lows make
you undergo highly commendable acts of stupidity! This is so because if you
think that the stranger will enlighten you to get over the lows or will pull
you out of the deep mess, then you deserve to be there for a little longer.
Lows are a part of everybody’s life and there is nothing exceptional about
them. Nowhere from the outside will the rescue team arrive. It is all
within you!
How to deal with them?
Forget that you HAD any low in life. Believe that there have
been only highs. No, you ain’t bluffing yourself. To rephrase, turn your lows
into your highs. If you have the time and patience, sit down and write as many
lows you think you have had. Against each one of them write in only a sentence as
to why you consider that low a low. Now having done this, in a second column write or try to wrack your brains and then write in only a sentence as to why
that low is not a low! What you need for filling up the details in the second
column is an open mind and a slightly tweaked perspective. If you go by my
word, you will have more things to fill in the second column, just try putting
down the best one.
Forget that you HAVE any low in life. Your life is just as
perfect as it could be right now. Smile. Yes, you could have been worse. This
definitely does not mean that you stop aiming at the highs. Forgetting that you
have any low in life is simply going to make you feel better about your
present. Comparing your so-called low with somebody else’s is being mean. Let
your imagination come alive if you have to imagine yourself in a worse
situation vis-à-vis your current situation, which you so eagerly wish to get
over.
Aim for little highs. This will only come to
your rescue if you firstly believe that there are only highs to aim for. It is
easier to get back from the ground as compared to a position which underground. Getting rid of the fact that a low exists, you have already stepped out of the
negative zone. Commendable! Now all you have to start from is a zero. It is
easy to build on it; brick by brick. A small high followed by another small
high, and there you go! A little high over another little one will make an insurmountable
high achievable without even you realizing it.
